The Sticky, Sexy, Sad Sides of Treena Orchard.

The book Samantha Jones, the sizzling heart of Sex and The City, would write if she was an anthropologist.

My most recent writerly adventure is the memoir I have written, called Sticky, Sexy, Sad: My Five Months Inside the Bumble Hive.  Intriguing sexual observations and comedic honesty combine in this story about the digitization of desire on Bumble, the world’s first feminist dating app.

This book and the articles I’ve published about Bumble mark my entry into the exciting arena of digital feminism and public scholarship. This is writing that everyone can relate to because it explores the universal issues of love, intimacy, and the importance of staying true to ourselves in our increasingly digital world.

My Bumble writing began as a therapeutic endeavour to record the bizarre, fascinating, and sometimes sad things I observed and experienced. It soon grew into something special, a record of my dual journey as a researcher and a woman struggling to understand what happens when desire goes digital. 

As I began to share my experiences in the Bumble-verse with others, it’s like my story was their story- truly fascinating! It was then that I decided that Sticky, Sexy, Sad would be a personal story that doubled as a work of public scholarship instead of a scholarly book.

Tik, tik, tik – a tally of my matches in the early days of exploring the sometimes unsweet hive

Being vulnerable is central to this task and it’s something I do in my Bumble project and beyond. My students, colleagues, family members, and new people in my social circles often say that my courage and nerve to share the wild bits, the disappointing bits, and the funny reflections about things we often take for granted is what they connect with most strongly.

What began as a leap of romantic faith transformed into Sticky, Sexy, Sad, a riveting manifesto about staying true to yourself amid the digitization of life and love in the 21st century.

I invite you to laugh, think, and question with me as I explore the nuances of digital dating and how it’s impacting love, intimacy, and how we relate to one another as sexual and social beings.

Read snippets of my Sticky. Sexy. Sad adventures now and lend your voice to the conversation about sex, love in its many forms and the transformational impact that dating apps are having on how we know not only one another but, perhaps most of all, ourselves.

I was reading through your blog this weekend and during reading week and I love it! Laughed and related so hard at the accuracy of your experiences with dating apps – the post about the guys and their fish pics killed me 😂 Also, your writing style in “The Looking Glass: Reflecting on Relationships” had me emotional.. it was so poetic to me. Subscribed, obviously…

One of my students’ responses to Sticky, Sexy, Sad

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